I Hate this Place!

Our first week of kindergarten is almost over.

Thank God.

It hasn’t exactly been like what I was hoping it would be. First, Kyle seriously hates being put in the car-seat 4 times in a span of 2 1/2 hours. We have to load up, go to the school, unload, walk to the building, then Kyle and I leave and do the reverse. Then it’s the same thing to pick Connor up. Kyle gets royally pissed. By the time we get home from pick-up, he’s screaming to be out of the stupid car-seat.

Second, Connor doesn’t want to go to school. I can’t count the number of times he tells me every day that he hates that place. I know that once he gets there, he has problems listening to instructions, but that he does enjoy the stories and coloring and building things. They’ve put a reward system in place where he can earn stickers and pick a prize if he follows all the instructions, and I told them about MyJobChart.com yesterday so they’re going to implement that, but I just can’t seem to get the point across that all kids go to school, and that’s his most important job right now.

Then there’s the drop-off issues. He did fine the first day, but now he gets all clingy and wants me to stay there waiting for him or to go to class with him. Yeah, my kid has become “that” kid. I just don’t get it…he was fine at preschool, and looked forward to playing with his friends every day, and some of the same kids are in his kindergarten class. This whole clingy thing is fairly new. He even pulled it when my mother came to babysit so I could go to physical therapy. Usually, he only throws a tizzy if he forgets to say goodbye, but this is a whole new level of clingy that I haven’t seen since he was in daycare – which he hasn’t been to in just under 3 years.

I’m desperate to get his attitude turned around. I’ve tried explaining how important school is – so important that I “go” to school too, I’ve tried using playing with the other kids, I’ve even tried telling him about how kindergarten is only for big boys. Nothing seems to work. He’s really smart, too – he’s already doing basic addition and subtraction, and is teaching himself how to spell words by sounding them out.

He’s at school right now. When I dropped him off, he clung to my arm with hands like vice-grips and said “Today is a special day mamma! You can stay with me!”. Because I had told him that I can only stay at school with him on “special” days – you know, volunteering in the classroom. Doesn’t look like that may ever happen though if this keeps up. Ugh.

I would be eternally grateful if anyone has some suggestions for ways to help him like school. It’s only been a week, but it would be nice to not feel like the worst mom in the world.

Here’s a pic I took on the first day…

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  1. Anne says:

    I would definitely try meeting with the teacher. If you put your heads together, you might be able to come up with some solutions. I have found that teachers are often very helpful.

  2. Amy Hollingsworth says:

    thanks for stopping by Couponing & Reviewing in Texas…we are now following you via GFC

  3. Wendy Reed says:

    so sorry you’re having problems!! Give the little guy time!!

    Following you back!!

    Wendy ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Shiloh says:

    I don’t have school age kids, but I’ve worked with TONS of them. I would say, don’t panic just yet. Kindergarten is different than preschool, so it may just be an adjustment. Definitely the challenge boredom thing might be an aspect too, but I would wait to see if it calms down. As a teacher, you kind of expect to have some kids that take a little bit to adjust, and you don’t panic if they don’t dash in smiling and jumping around.:)

  5. Hello Cheryl Darling,

    Thanks for stopping by, following you back.

    If you love the idea of homeschool, it shouldn’t matter where you live or who is ‘snotty’ about your child’s education… it’s not their kid. If your little man enjoys learning at home and is ahead of his peers, he will always be board in class and then learning is no longer fun but a chore. You don’t want him to loose the fun out of learning as fun is what makes learning last a lifetime.

    Well my Dear, I’m off to fix my lipstick… xoxo

  6. I can SO empathize! When Princess Nagger started Kindergarten, while she hadn’t been clingy before, suddenly she was. I couldn’t (and can’t) be a volunteer, because she tells me that she’d cry too much because she’d miss me too much when I would leave. The only saving grace (for me) was that she rode the bus to and from school. That eliminated the drop-off drama that you have to deal with, poor thing! Though it did break my heart if I saw her little face crying in the window of the bus as it pulled away…

    It could be a situation similar to Princess Nagger – when she started Kindergarten, she already knew her colors, numbers, alphabet, was able to read basic books, etc. – it could be that Connor is having the same issue PN was, in that he might be bored since they’re teaching him things he already knows. Is it possible to talk to the teacher about options? PN had an amazing Kindergarten teacher who recognized that PN might need extra challenges in order to keep her from getting bored – and crying that she missed her mommy. ๐Ÿ˜‰ After the dust settled of this strange new world, PN was suddenly looking forward to going every day – and I know I have her Kindergarten teacher to thank for that.

    It’s possible since he’s such a smart dude that he might need some extra challenges to make learning fun for him – then maybe he’ll have a change of heart like Princess Nagger did. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Cheryl says:

      Holy crap. Now that you mention it, his preschool teacher did have to up his academics because he was getting bored! I can’t believe I forgot about that *smacks head*! Thanks so much for the reminder. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  7. Leann says:

    Fortunately mine has started Kindergarten and thinks it is great! The oldest on the other hand hated it when he started. He got over it. We spent a lot of time talking about what he did at the end of the day …. what he liked the most, what was funny, etc. I finally found out he hated kindergarten because the other kids bought lunch at school and I packed him a lunch. After that it was a piece of cake.

    You can also try sending a picture of you with him to school. or packing a “note” from mommy in his snack or lunch. This might help with the clingy thing.

    Eventually he will get over it. I know that doesn’t help today but it is something to look forward to.

    • Cheryl says:

      Thanks for the ideas Leann! Unfortunately, Connor’s kindergarten is only for 2 1/2 hours, so they don’t have lunch or snack while he’s there. The picture and note ideas are great tho – I think I’ll use the extra pocket on his backpack for that stuff!

  8. Connie says:

    Hey there! I found you from This Is Mommyhood… we were tagged in the same post! Anyhow, I was reading your post and am wondering if homeschooling is anything you would consider? If there is no way that it is feasible, I totally understand. I am fortunate enough to be able to stay at home and homeschool my three girls. (Not for any particular reason other than my eldest daughter was NOT a fan of going and I like being the one who gets to see all those wonderful “aha” moments!) But if it is in any way an option… it is not the scary, must-have-unlimited-patience kind of undertaking. It is relaxed, fun, and there is no more tears on either part…. just wanted to toss it out there! =)

    • Cheryl says:

      I love the idea of homeschooling, but unfortunately, we live in the northeast. People around here tend to be very snotty about education, and it’s not as popular here as it is in other parts of the country. One of my closest friends (who lives in Idaho) home-schooled all five of her kids! I did just get asked to review an educational tool that is supposed to help young children with learning issues (like following instructions), so I’m hoping to get started on that program and that maybe he’s having a learning issue we haven’t caught yet and that could be why he doesn’t like it.


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